Physically, we live in the present but our brain, many times, wanders in the past and maybe even some more times wanders in the future. Unfortunately, the more our brain lives in the past or the future the more we feel sad and unsatisfied.
Many times when we think of the past we think of a happy experience. We think of something good that happened to us and we know it will never repeat. It could be the memory of a lost loved person or the memory of being with our siblings playing in the backyard. Also, many times we let go our imagination of the future. Where will I be in ten years? What if I have this kind of money? Will I ever fall in love? Will I ever get married? Will I ever have my own baby? The sky is the limit when it comes to living our future.
Unfortunately, because we live in the past and the future more than we should we forget to enjoy our present. We lose control of our life because we are afraid of what might happen. Our past memories and future imaginations take control of our present life. If we want to do something in the moment that is supposedly risky, we think of how much hard work we have done to be here and the consequences of our new adventure. So, we stop and let our past and future drive our present.
Most self-help books claim that you can control your future by visualizing it, being optimistic and work hard for a better future. But there is something more important than the future it is the present. When we die, no one will remember us for what we hoped to achieve. Our family, relatives and friends will remember us for what we did not for what we wanted to do for them.
So, keep in mind that life in now! Live and value every present moment because this moment is going to be your happy memory in the future. Don’t afraid to take a risk. Go for what you want to do but afraid to do. Be happy not cautious.